It’s only one week that our already loved Mecha is home with us, and, of course, my learnings watching and interacting with her, are amazing.
I get frustrated because she is peeing everywhere. She’s 4 months old and has no control over it. Every time she just sees you and you give her the happy hello, she pees. She has no idea that she’s doing something wrong and the NO’s I yell are useless!
So, instead of continuing to get frustrated and clean pees all day, I don’t pay too much attention to her, go directly to the garden and then greet her and reward her for peeing outside.
I don’t know if professional dog trainers would agree or not with this system, but it works for Mecha and I, and eventually we’ll all find our balance!
And this is what I’ve come up with from it:
- I didn’t want to do the stretch of going outside because it was cold, or because I wanted to do other things first.
Easy and comfortable things come easier for us. Going the extra mile takes more effort
- I wanted her to do what I wanted, not what she wanted!
Or what I knew in my head what was more functional to get the result I wanted.
This is so typical in a lot of relationships. We keep on thinking things should be in a certain way, when it’s us that have to ask ourselves how and what we can do to get what we want, and
- I thought I was training her but she trained me to find a solution and think in a different way to get my outcome of her peeing in the Garden.
She was not going to get it if I kept on doing what I was doing.
As much as you water and nurture an apple tree, it’ll always give you apples and nothing else. Don’t expect it to give you oranges if it’s not able to.
I was playing Mecha’s game because I let her. She was more flexible than me.
Does this sound familiar to you?
What happens in a relationship where you abuse or feel abused?
How come you find yourself in situations you would have never imagined?
You allow it. You create it.
If you don’t decide your standards, others will for you.
If you don’t stand up for what you believe in, you’ll play under other people’s believes and rules.
If you don’t sit on the drivers’ seat, you’ll go where the driver is taking you.
Only you have the key to your future, use it and use it well!
Off to clean another pee…
